Best System To Approach?

There's been a lot of debate on indirect versus direct game, what's better. The truth is they both work. Guys have been getting laid forever using all types of methods, lines, and techniques. "Direct" is more of an approach where you state your attentions. You're basically hitting on the girl. She knows from your approach what's going on and what you're there for.

"Indirect" is when your approach is ambiguous. Are you hitting on her or not? She doesn't know. You're kind of conveying this aloofness at the same time you're conveying active disinterest. Indirect approaching is making her work toward getting you to take interest. Indirect is not showing interest until later on when she's earned it. Typically, I've found indirect approaching is going to get you the most consistent results. I'm not saying direct approach doesn't work, but it's not going to work the highest percentage of time with the hottest women.

The reason most guys crash and burn is because they're conveying that they want something. The second the girl picks up that you want something you're blown out, unless she's into it.

As soon as you get an indicator of interest or a statement of intent, whether you're using body language, speech, anything like that, the second she realized you want something she's going to decide right then and there, "should I go with this or not?" Most of the time if it's too early on and you didn't convey enough personality she's going to say "no.".

As long as you stay talking, girls will stay there. You just don't crash and burn, you can't, because you're not conveying so much interest and you don't want something. You're not presenting the opportunity for them to blow you out.

With the indirect approaches, it's more or less you screening the girl for what you want. With the direct approach, she's screening you because she knows what's going on and what your intent is. So you're going to have to keep proving yourself to stay in there so she won't reject you. With indirect, you're choosing the girl, you're making he earn it, you're qualifying her, she's qualifying herself to you. You're using the punishment/reward methodology. You apparently have no interest, so she's got to get you interested. By the end of the time, she's going to do a lot of things that are going to make her earn it. She's going to work hard. She knows that. She knows she's working for it and she's going to appreciate it even more. You'll get better results that way.

There's also an idea that every other guy uses a direct approaches with women, and if you're indirect, then you're making yourself stand out from other guys. Look at these guys who crash and burn with women. Look what they're doing. They're learning in, touching, complimenting her.. be different, be a different. Do something the girls haven't experienced before. It's almost like you're insulting them, because you're coming up to them and just talking, using body language that's conveying not interest. Right from the opener you're getting them trying to earn it, have them qualify themselves to you. It's completely different from what they're used to.

What you're doing is basically talking all the power away from them. The ball is in your court. I know a lot of you guys have heard "be a man, don't apologize for your desires, let them know what you want, claim what's yours, tell them," stuff like that. That's okay. It's a lot of that tough guy rhetoric. But even with the indirect approach, a lot of guys criticize it. "You're not making your intentions known, how are the girls going to know you're the right one?" Trust me. With indirect, all the power is yours. You can be the one when you want. There's the place for that. You will make your desires known, but at the right time.